What a shitty guy, but, like, what are you doing, bro? Go kick him in the balls and beat his ass. Then you can be like, "Yeah, that dude that directed Grandma's Boy? I kicked him in the balls and beat his ass. AND he took my sloppy seconds. What a fucking loser." /pantydroppa
Well I've been planning to punch him in the face as he sleeps.
The issue really isn't that I'm not quite over her. People get burned all the time; that's to be expected. My whole deal was how eager and will she was to be with me when we first met on OKC, which in retrospect was complete bull shit.
The story as I understand it was that they had hooked up before the whole OKC thing while she was storyboarding some Dish Network commercial for him. They dated for a little bit, and she wanted to know if he was serious about it to which he responded "lol wut? um-no" - or something like that. He stopped giving her work for a bit and they stopped talking. She got all butt hurt, made an OKC, found me, and we hit it off. She doesn't mention any of this to me until a bit into the relationship when she again got some work storyboarding. Said she had a job on a commercial that Nick Goossen was directing. The name sounded familiar and it finally clicked that he was Grandma Boy's guy. So I mentioned that that seemed like a pretty suite deal. Asked how they found each other. Apparently it was through some music video she starred in in college (here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z8Y1MalRrDc
). So fair enough.
Everything's fine for the following several months. She's working, schooling, banging me and shit. Cool. Then she started having problems with him again. He was dicking her around with payment and work, telling her that she needed to devote more time, or ask for less, etc etc, typical male/female work dynamic. To try and mend the relationship she goes and hangs out with him one night. They do ecstasy together, he makes a pass, she declines, he bails, tells her not to steal anything from his pad until her friend comes down and picks her up. Tells me this whole story, which I half-believe. I asked whether they had had sex before, she then tells me the history of the relationship. Assures me that she thinks he's an asshole going nowhere with his career (which is actually kinda true I suppose, what has he done since Gma's?) and that she's going to refuse to work for him again. I go through the next few months with some uncertainty until she finally breaks it off in mid-October because she doesn't want to lead me on anymore.
Find this on her wall a few weeks later: http://i.imgur.com/u50RL.jpg
don't really think much of it. Don't really talk to her for the next 8 months. Working on getting over her. Then I see the previous picture. And that's what pissed me off.
It just invalidates everything we had done together during our relationship. I wasn't ever anything she was considering, I was just there to provide her the emotional gratification missing from her life during her Nick Goossen interim period. And really I'd have been fine with that had I known up front from the start that that's what was going on. I just hate people that play games, more than anything - I hate playing games. And that's what the last year of my life was, one big game. I'm not bitter because she's with a "better man," I'm pissed because she just wasn't up front about it, and I had to waste a year of my life to figure it out.
EDIT: And just to be clear. This isn't all about me. I'm genuinely concerned she's going to get fucked over again. I'm not looking for revenge. I know deep down she's a good person, and she's great at what she does. I think she handles relationships rather poorly and that's going to hurt her love-life and with the way she's going, her career down the road, and I don't really wish that on her.